Category: Goddess Life

Misconceptions about Relationships

Misconceptions about relationships In this podcast episode we begin our discussion of the misconceptions that affect relationships… 1.“If you please people you will be happy”– The belief that if we do what others want us to do we will find fulfillment in love. Unfortunately this leads to a lack of authenticity and ultimate frustrations when it…

Relationships & Sex w/ Shenayda Deane: Introduction

Welcome to the new BBGG podcast series Relationships & Sex with Shenayda Deane! Oh my goodness it’s good to be back! I have something super juicy for all of you goddesses and aspiring goddesses. What is the one area of life everyone seems to struggle with? Relationships! What is the deal with that right? Well I…

Polyamory, Polyfidelity & Threelationship

Polyamory, Polyfidelity, & Threelationship Why polyamory? Well, monogamy has always been  the default program of most societies’ relationship models. Heteronormativity is pervasive. It suggests that if you are a human, it is expected for you to be both heterosexual and monogamous. What if you aren’t heterosexual? What if you have found that monogamy isn’t for you?…

Say No To The Friend Zone

The Sexual Nature of Relationships, and Why the Friend Zone Fucking Sucks!

All adult relationships have a sexual component to them. Sexual meaning, the truest form of sexuality, which is creation energy. Relationships need to have a creative aspect to them to be valuable. Most people don’t want to admit that. The truth is, if there isn’t a sexual energy component to a particular relationship, it is just a person whom you’re killing time with until you DO find a sexually charged relationship. Why? Because no one really wants the friend zone.

People want meaningful connections. They want to create things with others, express their passions for things in life, and/or connect and express physically through sex. That’s the point of all relationships. To relate. If you’re not relating, then why are you spending time with this person? Think about it. No really, ask yourself why? If you aren’t able to give someone something of equal value in return to what they are providing you, you need to end that relationship. And vice versa of course.

Everybody hates the friend zone. The dreaded and despised “friend zone”  is when a woman allows someone romantically interested in her to “date” her knowing she is not romantically interested in the interested party. This also goes for anything else someone might be interested in. If you aren’t generally excited to be with this person and do the things that they want to do with you then keep it moving sister. That shit is just plain rude.

But WHY is it so rude? It’s rude because you’re keeping them from finding someone who IS excited to be with them. Don’t you want someone who is excited to be with you? Of course you do! So instead of friend zoning someone, just let it go. Don’t keep them around just because you don’t want to be alone waiting for what you really want. Don’t do it. Don’t do it to them, and don’t do it to yourself.

Just say no to the fucking friend zone!